This is a blog for the hopeless.  Have you reached a point in your relationship where you cannot see any earthly way possible that you could become happily married to your spouse?  I have too.

In fact, I have felt that for almost 5 years and have been separated since 2011.  Although something happened about a month ago (July 2014).  I prayed for my husband to get a new job closer to us.  You see, we have been living 800 miles apart for 3 years.  In that time, we have both signed divorce papers…twice.  So why are we not divorced?  A month ago I prayed that God would lead my husband.

This is not a marriage that I ever want to be restored.  I was miserable with him.  Yet what if it were possible to have a different marriage? A dream marriage where both spouses work together to raise the children, and I did not have to live in fear of constantly being criticized.  What if it were a marriage without lies and deceit; a marriage free from physical, verbal and mental abuse;  a marriage of support, mutual enjoyment, physical activity, an overall healthy lifestyle, and a marriage that is based on a foundation of faith, what then?

Am I willing to accept the biblical truth from Jeremiah 29:11? “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

If so, I need to change my thoughts, let go of my doubts and believe.  Dear God, I claim your truth for my life.  I know that you want to prosper me and not to harm me.  I know you have plans to give me hope and a future.  I accept that there are circumstances that I are out of my control and I am asking for a miracle.  It will take a miracle to create the kind of marriage that would make me want to stay married to my spouse.  I don’t know how you could ever fix this broken relationship, but if it is your will for me to stay married, I am asking in the name of your son, Jesus, please God, create a way to make it the marriage of my dreams.  Amen

If you are in a similar situation, please email me or add a comment.  I am happy to pray for you as we go through this journey together.