Being single during the holiday season is lonely, but I have to remember that love is a choice. When you are married, you might focus on that person, and miss all the other people who need love.

Your marriage miracle will happen when you are ready, not when you are lonely.  Being alone offers perspective that you don’t have when you are in a relationship.  When I was married, I was so focused on him, that I could not see the issues that I needed to work on.

I believe that is why God allowed me to be alone these past ten years. I needed to learn how to be a “fit helper” for him.  What were the areas that I failed to address in my first marriage?

Am I:

  • Physically fit? Yes, I exercise regularly. Go running several times a week, lift weights. Walk everyday, hike, kayak.
  • Financially fit? Yes, I contribute regularly to my church, 401(k), pay off the credit cards every month, paying down the mortgage.
  • Emotionally fit? Yes, more than most. I still have moments of emotional distress, but those are somewhat attributed to circumstances.
  • Spiritually fit? Yes, I have a relationship with God and am learning about other spiritual practices.
  • Intellectually fit? Yes, I am constantly seeking out new information and crave the experience of learning, pursuit of knowledge, and attainment of education. 

I am far from perfect, but I’ve come a long way. I once had a sharp tongue. I pray that in times of conflict, I can offer my future husband a gentle word instead of anger or criticism.

Dear God,

I thank you for this time to be alone, because it taught me how to love.  It taught me how to take care of my mind and body. I pray for those that read this. If anyone feels lonely, that they will be comforted by Your Holy Spirit. I am ready for my marriage miracle. Thank you for this answered prayer.

In Jesus name,

Amen