Are you giving more than receiving love from your spouse or significant other? Valentine’s Day may then feel like a magnifying glass for the disparity in this situation. Others are receiving beautiful bouquets of flowers or discussing the plans that their partner made for the weekend. All around you are perceived images of what love is supposed to look like. So what if that is not your situation? What if you are lucky just to receive a card on this day?

  1. Remember you are loved: At some point in every relationship, the other person will let you down. God’s love is never-ending and unconditional. The more time I spend reading the Bible, the more time I feel filled and fulfilled. I have an abundance of love that I can share with my partner, regardless of whether it is reciprocated. This is in contrast to a previous relationship where my emotional bank account was overdrawn.
  2. Understand your partner’s situation: Is there a health or financial crisis that is preventing them from giving you the attention and affection you desire and deserve? If so, are you patient enough to see it through? Click here for some verses on patience that may help. Resist the urge to try to fix things, remain supportive and don’t add to the problem by complaining. We all experience trials, this is the time to show your admiration, and appreciation for all the ways you love him, but resist the urge to fix the problem.
  3. Pray: Ask God two questions, “am I supposed to be in a relationship?” and “is there something I need to change?” Then listen to the still small voice.  If your feelings of love are intense, you will have to pay very close attention. This quiz is interesting. It does not ask, “does he buy you things” or “does she make you dinner?” Instead, it focuses on the essential qualities of a healthy marriage. If you find that the relationship is not healthy, I would encourage you to talk to someone. “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” Proverbs 11:14

Dear God,

You brought ______________ into my life. I thank you for my relationship with him. There have been so many happy moments together, but this is a difficult time in our relationship. We are hurting. Please God, show up in this situation. Only you know what the future holds, but if it is your will, I know you will see us through. I  cling to Your promise that You work for the good of those who love You. Thank you that this trial will make us stronger. I believe and trust in you.

In Jesus’ name, Amen