Something I didn’t understand about marriage was the biblical truth that two become one. What does that mean? When I was 16, I remember my mother telling me not to be unequally yolked, but I didn’t understand that either.
What I came to experience though, was the burden that I would bear being married to a non-believer. Eventually, my husband did publicly confess his faith (twice), but never took the action steps to grow in his faith, instead backsliding into his sin.
Two become one for me, is to put the emotional, spiritual, intellectual, financial, and sexual needs of your spouse in front of your own needs. As much as I tried to build up my spouse in these areas, his vessel could never be filled and I always felt like I was giving more than I received.
What my spouse really needed, only God could provide. My husband was constantly reminding me of his childhood and the abandonment he felt by his parents. He always feared that I would leave too. I could not break the chains that tied him to his past, instead of focusing on the future.
After returning from Paris, my hope for our ten-year-old marriage was gone. Without hope, I lost the ability to cling to God. I lacked the energy to wake up on Sunday morning to go to church. I spent a year searching for answers in self-help books, bottles of alcohol, and in the companionship of anyone but my husband. After I filed for divorce (almost 18 months later) I felt better. I started going to church again. I was gaining control back of my life.
We were one flesh and as long as my husband continued to give into every earthly desire and sin of the flesh, I had to suffer and experience that pain with him.
Are you in an unequally yolked marriage or relationship? Are you or your spouse giving in to sins of the flesh (sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies)? If so, I want to pray for you. If you act on your faith, and pray for help, God will bless you with his grace. I ask you to pray with me for all those that are struggling in their marriages.
We thank you for the gift of marriage. In your perfect world, married couples would love and respect each other as Christ loved the church. However, this world is far from perfect Lord. Help us never to lose hope, that you will answer our prayers and create for us that perfect marital union. I pray that you would help us to overcome the temptation to give in to the devil who whispers easy answers. Help us to return a gentle word when facing wrath. To heal a broken marriage Lord, it would take a miracle, but if it is Your will, we know it will be done.
In the name of Jesus, I pray, Amen