To the list below, I would add, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28 ESV.

It is so important to guard your heart against infidelity. Eight years into my marriage, I almost had an affair. Had it not been for my Christian faith, I may have. I had to make a decision in a split second.

My husband, “Mark” invited his new co-worker “Tim” over for dinner every Wednesday. Since Tim had accepted the job outside his home state, he only got to see his family on the weekends and lived in a hotel the rest of the week. Mark felt bad for the guy and wanted to offer him a regular home cooked meal. After a few weeks, I noticed Tim’s eyes lingering on mine and I enjoyed the positive feeling it gave me. Pretty soon, I was making sure the house was spotless and the meal extra special on those Wednesdays. I lit candles and put on make up. I told myself that I was just wanting to be a good wife and make a good impression as a dotiful caretake. All the while, the attention grew. One night, I caught Tim’s foot under the table and I let in linger for a moment before pulling away.

Then one Wednesday, Mark had to travel out of town. I asked him if I should still have Tim over for dinner. Mark curiously replied, “yes, as long as you don’t kiss him.” I was still innocent in my head, so I felt instinctively defensive. “Of course not” I protested, while secretly cheering for an opportunity to be alone.
The night began innocently enough. We ate dinner, then sat down to watch a TV show. Tim slowly inched closer to me. I wanted him to touch me, but the awkward silence made me ask him if he wanted to play darts in the garage. Once outside, he smoked a cigarette, and I asked him for a drag. I felt young and attractive. The flirting was palpable. “Well, it’s getting late. I should probably be going.” He said, and we started walking down the driveway to his car. As we walked into the shadow of the house, I felt his arm around my waist and suddenly he was pulling me towards him. As he leaned in to kiss me, I moved my head quickly and gave him a hug.

For the next few nights I ached for him. Then I told a friend. “You can’t see him,” she said. “You must avoid him.”

As hard as that was to hear, I knew she was right. Eventually the desire passed, but temptation is real. The devil lost that battle, but did not stop. I am sure my husband was fighting the same battle, but his faith was not as strong as mine.
If you are facing this kind of temptation, I want to pray with you.

Dear God,
I regret that I have sinned, by giving into temptation. Please forgive me. I pray for those that are facing the temptation of sexual sin. It is so hard to ignore, especially when we feel unloved. Please Lord, provide us with the comfort when we face those trials to overcome. Remind us of your scriptures so that our actions can be pleasing in your eyes. Thank you for showing us a way to find peace and happiness.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen

AFFAIRCARE

Romans 6:23   “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in ChristJesus our Lord.”

Romans 10:4  “Christ is the culmination of the law so that there may be righteousness for everyone who believes.”

John 3:16  For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Romans 10:9-10  “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.”

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